I hate being lied to. I hate when the one person who should tell me the truth has lied to me and thinks I'm stupid enough not to know I'm being lied to. It really infuriates me that him and our oldest son are together lying to me, especially when they lied to me about something HUGE and I mean HUGE last year and when the truth came out, I was fit to be tied. The thing is, whether I want to admit it or not, there's an expectation that my kids will lie to me at various times in their lives, but I do NOT expect my husband to lie to me over their lies, as well.
If you make a mistake, just own it. Don't lie, because the truth is going to come out. The sinful, prideful, ugly side of me wants to tell my husband, "just wait until our girls are older" and they tell me something they don't want you to know, but need to know. BUT, the difference is, I won't keep it a secret. I may tell him to keep quiet, but I won't keep a secret. Not telling is lying.
We've dealt with this kind of crap for years and I'm at the point that trust is broken and I have no belief in him that he's being honest with me, even if he is. It sucks. A wife should be able to trust her husband, especially when it comes to her children, but I know I can't.
I have also told both of them that I know they're lying and I don't trust either of them. They don't seem to care, because they continue to lie.
If you are a mom or a dad who keeps things from the other parent, I would encourage you to stop. Tell that parent. If you want to keep open communication with your child, ask your spouse to not tell the child, but your first loyalty goes to your spouse, because once that trust is broken, it will take a lot to mend it.
